"My (gorgeous) London girlfriend says that when our partner wants someone else, something uncomfortable arises in us. If we say ‘I don’t want this feeling’, deny it, it’s really a way of not loving ourselves. A feeling is arising. All our feelings are part of ‘us’. We are feeling more of ourselves when those waves come. Like part of us is coming home to be felt, waking up. It’s not the ‘trigger’ of our partner being attracted to another that is the problem, but the feeling in our own self. And that feeling was lodged there long before we even met our present partner. It’s been there, a wound of loneliness and rejection and abandonment, since we were tiny. So are we going to live our lives being untrue about our attractions and excitements to protect our lovers from feeling their core fears? Are we going to ask them to do that for us? Is that love? Or are we going to be 100% authentic and risk what comes up? Sit with each other, hold each other, but let the other feel their hard feelings without trying to fix it or save them from them."
Bombardment
Wounded
Men&Women
Love & Need
The Wanting
Grace
