"Ties. I prefer firm ties. The ones that are harder to do and undo, but when are done and afterwards undone, can be proud of themselves and say with belief "I was a great tie"... It is silly to cry for ties that seem to be undone but which are still firm. Some ties are stubborn. Sometimes you think "puff, there it goes..." but they are actually still there. Just like some kinds of love."
destino - dali
My question today is: with whom do you have eternal ties? In which minds do you reside? Apart from your over-generous self-valuation, which invisible bonds keep you from giving up to gravity and falling down your graveyard? Mom? Dad? Sis? Lover? Abuser? Ex-lover? Now, I want you to think harder. Think of people who are not in your quick dial list, but still nourish big chunks of your soul one way or the other. It may be the green-eyed musician you see everyday begging on the street, the milestone person of your life that goes deep, a stranger that you play with every week, may be a mocking soulmate or an epiphany-triggering colleague… I'm talking about the people that your brain & your five senses notice and highlight out of all strangers in the crowd. The ones who fill your matrix... Openly or behind sealed lips, think of all the people that you have strong ties with...
I like the word "Ties". Even better: "Bonds". "Relationship" is a weak term that is too broad to carry the meaning with its head up high. To make "relationship" more adequate, people have sub-named a few different kinds of it: "family relations" "friendship" "girlfriend-boyfriend" "fiancee" "husband-wife" "someone I met at a bar" "my student" "my buddy" "my ex" "my religion"... Dull identifications that are supposed to signify all the fanfare you go through when you are having a shared experience with the other party (usually "the upper party" when it comes to religion). But you live a completely different set of events and feelings when you are with different friends, different family members or different lovers... If we are assuming that everyone is unique, than the types of relationships should more or less add up to "people X the number of people each of person meets". Apart from the generic sub-names like "friend" or "buddy" that I just mentioned, this leaves out billions of relationships unnamed/undefined/unidentified. Within the sea of these unnamed/undefined/unidentified interactions, most people drown in confusion and panic. Because there are no pre-set rules, no predictable timetable of the upcoming phases, no social pre-approval, no apparent security, no promise of justice. So people freak out. They don't look at the green-eyes of the musician they see everyday begging on the street. They don't go and thank their favorite writer for writing so neat. They stay away from the people who might understand, who might reflect, love, help or lead. They just don't speak. Much worse, they don't know how to communicate beyond speech. They forego numerous potential firm ties or brand-new standard-relationships they could have had if they only chose to follow their bond-radar soul instead of following the constraint-lover society. The very society which betrays them sooner or later despite their selfish loyalty... When your relationships are not clearly defined by this mighty society, you might false-believe that the unnamed ties do not exist. But as long as there exists the slighest hint of a shared experience, they stand still on the iron hill.
